I resigned from my job to be a full-time mommy

I started working at my job in 2005 as a junior reporter. I gave it my all working late, working hard, and was determined to have stability in my life and be successful in the job. By 2010, I was promoted to Managing Editor and looking after the Americas region and one incredible group of people. I also got asked to speak at quite a few events about the fascinating chemical industry. I also have put in some crazy long hours! 6 a.m. to 8 p.m. several days and then some.

I have done a lot of travelling in this job. Costa Rica, Mexico City, Montreal, Alberta, Ottawa, Toronto, Paris, Nice, Berlin, Frankfurt, Budapest, Prague, London, Rio, Singapore, Malaysia, all over the US…that is just what I can remember now. There were more places.

Because of all the travelling, I’ve had some pretty unforgettable experiences and learned even that I like Asian food and I love wine too and chocolate from England.

I have met some amazing people. The people are friends and family and mean so much to me. I now have lifelong friends all over the world, in London, Singapore and China.

I have worked hard to foster a sense of community in the office and to make it a great place to work. When I became manager, I would read ‘best place to work’ articles for fun and implement whatever I could. We did team lunches, and weekend parties, office Olympics and most importantly, I just took time to get to know my team personally and help them get the tools they needed to do their very best.

I have led some fun and meaningful community service activities.

I have participated in my fair share of office pranks.

I made more money than this little country girl ever thought she would make.

I am due back to work from FMLA on the 18th. I went on leave just before Thanksgiving when we had the foster to adopt placement of Little Lady (now age 4) and Little Man (age 2).

I turned in my resignation letter on Monday.

It was one of hardest and most emotional things I have ever done.

I could barely talk to my boss through tears. I had to write a script (like I always do when I have a difficult professional conversation).

He was so kind and understanding.

The more we find out about what these kids have been through, and the more we read on attachment and realize how much connection and development and attention these babies need, the more clear it is.

I need to take some time and focus on these babies. A year, maybe two, maybe more.

We’ve prayed about it without ceasing for several weeks. We’ve reworked the budget over and over. There will be a lot of changes to our spending habits. We’ll make some sacrifices.

In the end, I feel like taking this time now while the babies are young to help them grow and develop and attach will really pay off later when they are teens and adults.

They have been in six homes and are just 4 and 2. They so desperately need a consistent caregiver, nurture and structure and as much one on one attention and love as we can give them.

This is not an easy decision. Work is so much of who I am. I dreamed of being a Managing Editor one day when I was just 16 years old editing my school paper. I dreamed of having a global job meeting people from all over the world when I graduated college when I was 22 years old. I dreamed of developing relationships and doing work that matters probably starting when I was 4.

My boss tried to make me feel better. He told me, “There will always be a monthly report to write in a few years. Taking time for what matters the most now is the right thing to do. You won’t ever regret it.” (Corporate speak aside).

My boss is a great leader. In fact, all the leaders at this company are seriously fascinating people. I am so blessed to know them. I have learned so much from them in the last several years about strategy, thinking big, outrageous and successfully. When other publications were laying journalists off, we were doubling and tripling our team. That takes vision.

They taught me about respect. Respect for others, respect for my own health and well being, respect for my family, working hard and living hard. I was the one who flew 10 hours to work in a hotel in Berlin and not see the sights. But my boss was the one to say, “You can spare 20 minutes to grab lunch and see the Berlin wall remains.” If we don’t take time to live, can we ever really have space in our brains to create visions? That moment changed my career. When I became more mindful, everything became more beautiful, more clear, more sharp and I was able to magically make things happen that I never thought I could do. All from taking 20 minutes to see something I never would have taken the time to do previously.

Another time, I was so upset about a change. He reminded me that each of us have one big book that is full of chapters. Don’t worry if you don’t like one chapter, there is always another chapter. He was right. Look at how exciting the chapters in my book have become!

He told the team in a meeting today, and then sent out this very nice letter. I could not stop crying when I read it.

Hello all,

It’s with mixed emotions that I announce the departure of Heather Doyle, who has decided to relinquish her post as Managing Editor, Americas to devote herself to the full-time raising of the two kids she adopted in November.

While we very much regret losing Heather (and she very much regrets leaving us), we can also share in her delight at the turn of events that has brought such profound change and joy to life for her and her husband David. The pictures below say it all.

After starting her journalism career in local newspapers, Heather joined ICIS in March 2005 as a pricing editor. She handled a range of markets in subsequent years until becoming Managing Editor in November 2010.

Over the next three years she steered the Americas team through various fair winds and foul on the seas of price reporting, while never losing sight of the fact that the people she was managing are, indeed, people and not mere assets. Her generous sharing of attention and respect for those she worked with has been a signature of the Doyle administration, as has been her leadership in organising charitable activities.

Without listing all of Heather’s achievements, she set one particular mark that will be tough for any other manager of a large group to equal: a net promoter score from her team in the last Employee Opinion Survey of 50.0. If you know how these things are scored, you will recognise that as a truly outstanding result and one that brought great credit to Heather.

Happily, we can look forward to seeing Heather around and about, and perhaps in time we may even get to have her back with us in some capacity. In the meantime, please join with me in thanking her for her contribution to ICIS and wishing her all the very best for her and her family.

It’s hard to say goodbye. It all seems so permanent. I’d rather… Hey guys, I’m going to focus on being a mommy right now. I’ll see yall in a little while when I am just ‘mom.’

Onward and upward. New adventure awaits. And as I finish this story, little lady comes running down the stairs from her nap, eyes bright with cheer and contentment because she got in some good rest….”Mommy! Mommy! I love you Mommy!”

Will the tears ever dry?

3 thoughts on “I resigned from my job to be a full-time mommy

  1. Awesome, awesome post!! I am newly entering the foster-adopt world, having re-engineered my life in many ways to support this decision. In fact, my second home study is tomorrow. You have achieved total rock star status!! Being a full-time mommy is the best job title you will ever have!! And you will richly draw from all of your life’s experiences in doing so. You are a true inspiration!!šŸ™‚

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